(If you did not watch Biggest Loser last night, feel free to skip down to the next paragraph)
I was so inspired during last night's episode when Bob had his team spinning at the gym. I loved it because a) I can't resist a great spin class and almost started crying when they were all yelling counting off the last sets ("Yes! Yes! I've been there! I know how you feel blue team!" and b) Bob gets it. I loved when he was talking to Patty about being a mother of 3 and how hard it is and then said, "You're worth it Patty." She nodded her head but then when he asked her to say it herself, "I'm worth it." She couldn't. He finally got her to say it through tears! So that's where I DID actually break down and cry...and was yelling (fists raised) at the tv, "YOU'RE WORTH IT PATTY!! YOU'RE WORTH IT!!"
It got me thinking about this whole proccess. Am I worth the time and attention and focus and sacrifice and reward that losing weight demands? And at the risk of sounding Stuart Smalley-ish, I really did asked myself: Am I worth it? Well, of course the answer is YES! But there are days I forget. Like when I come home from the gym to kids pouncing on me. Or feel guilty about the more expensive (and healthier) cereal I picked up from the store -just for me. Or when I start to wonder if I really will reach my goal. Or start to think that "other" people have a special ability to reach goals that I just don't have. Tonight was a great reminder that although there are several people depending heavily (and I do mean HEAVILY) on me, I still know that I am worth taking care of. In fact, I am better able to cope with the day-to-day physical demands of motherhood when I've exercised and planned out (at least some of) my meals. In our house, a healthy mom is a happier mom. It's really hard sometimes to keep yourself at the top of that priority list whether you're a mother or not. So the bottom line: Do you believe you deserve to be healthy and fit? Or are you like Patty on the bike, who couldn't even say "I'm worth it!" What do you tell yourself when you start to feel guilty or not worth all the trouble? And if you're one of those people who has no problem with anything like this-any help for those who do?
Thanks for the reminder Patty and Bob, because today, I'm feelin it.
October 3, 2007
I'm Worth It
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What an adorable picture of you and your children! So sweet! This is a great post, Katie. Sometimes it's hard for me to remember that eating right and exercise are acts of self-care--not just deprivation.
ok, first off - best family picture EVER.
second, that's how i started this whole thing. I had to stop and realize i was worth it. before i took everything for granted; the food i ate, the clothes i hid my body in, what i did for exercise - the whole kit and caboodle.
now i put my health needs first because i want to live to see today's ankle-biters grow up to lead the world tomorrow...
I may not have kids now, but i put so much into my two little nieces and they inspire me daily (although the little one wouldn't talk to me on the phone today - boourns). but their adorable little faces follow me EVERYWHERE i am (you'd think they were mine) and keep me going.
Great post and great pic! Yes, we're worth it.
I'm glad to know that someone else got all teary during that part of the Biggest Loser. : )
Thanks sbg, " Sometimes it's hard for me to remember that eating right and exercise are acts of self-care--not just deprivation."
Well said!
Marie. Thanks so much for your comment. Women realizing, "yes, I am worth it!" just gets me all choked up! And I love that's where it started for you. (could you imagine what your life would be like had you not had that realization?)
I love that you are so close to your nieces! What a great example you are and will be to them.
wow... that actually made me a little teary... because that is my biggest struggle as well. I really never do get over feeling guilty that in order to workout I miss the "family" time. That is the number one reason I didn't make time for this after having Kid F. I can still give myself a hard time about "needing" an hour to myself... but when I do take it I am rejuvenated and when I don't I'm usually at the end of my rope so I've been trying to remind myself that an hour to myself is more than worth it for everyone :)
Also I'm very consistent about when I exercise so that Mr F and the kiddos have gotten used to that time together and developed their own routine. At first I would always interpret Mr F's frazzled-ness as passive aggression... as if he was saying I was asking too much to have the time alone! He wasn't... but he did take awhile to adjust to the time alone with them. I still feel guilty sometimes but I really want to model exercise as a lifestyle for my girls so that keeps me going when nothing else does!
Cute picture!!
Sometimes it's so easy to let go of the big picture and get wrapped up in day to day life. You forget how much the big picture really impacts your day to day.
I forgot how much happier and healthier I am now that I have lost almost 70 lbs. I forgot how much my life has changed. I forgot how timid and self conscious I was before and I forgot how defensive I was. Thanks for reminding me. I needed it.
love the pic---your kids are super cute. (love the spidey pjs btw)...remembering that you're worth it...why is this so hard?! great post and a good reminder for me. thanks!
Katie and Molly,
I've been a silent lurker on your site for a little while now, but I just had to respond to this post. (By the way, this is Andrea, Amy's friend -- the one snoring in your grandparent's basement the night before she got married...)
Anyway, I'm training for a triathlon, and some days I feel guilty leaving my kids at the child care at the YMCA so that I can work out. I think moms (especially Mormon moms) feel guilty over doing anything for themselves -- anything that's not child and family centered. What we need to do more is say "I'm worth it!" over and over to ourselves.
I love your blog -- thanks for all the great tips!
Great Post. Sometimes the biggest question for me isn't whether I am worth it or not, but "Does it really matter?" In the end, I don't know if it matters that I look better - but I know that it matters that I feel better. I just have to remind myself.
Hey Amanda! Sorry I missed you last go around. Thanks for coming by! (and hang in there. Law school is quite the adventure!)
Mrs. Furious, Soooo been there!! It sounds like you've got a routine that works for you guys though. The strange thing is I am better at the making time now than I was the first time around too (when I had more of it!). Great comment, thanks for sharing; your girls have got a great example!
Carolyn,
70 lbs is such and accomplishment! And I agree, that "big" picture always helps me remember what is most important. You are a great example of caring enough about yourself to make a MAJOR change!
Meg, The Spidey and Power Ranger costumes are our favs (muscles built in!) That whole thing last night was a good remnder for me too. It just cleared the air a bit for me and helped me to refocus.
xena, (Andrea), How awesome you're training for a triathlon!! Thanks for your comment, so true!
amber, I know exactly what you mean! Good point.
Bob is my hero. I heart Bob.
Really nice post Katie - thanks!
Love the picture, Katie! I love those kinds of family photos so much more than posed ones because they're so much more real. Loved Biggest Loser last night. I too cried at that point, as well as several other points. I get so emotional seeing these people who have struggled and didn't care enough about themselves to finally see that they're worth it. I always feel that I have to be a mom first so my needs come second so I have to remind myself that if I am healthy I am such a better mom. I love Bob. I wish I could have a trainer like him to work with. He actually reminds me of my brother.
Mrs. Darcy, we are the same page lady!
bri- your welcome :)
Jeanne, I agree with everything you said. (Bob DOES train with me though, he pops up near Satan whenever it gets hard :)
what a great post....
why is it that we have these feelings about ourselves? why in the world would we think we're NOT worth it? we think everyone ELSE is worth it! why not ourselves too?
i struggle so much with this, and have recently been trying to wade through all of those feelings so that i can work them out and change them! it's just sad to me that this is even an issue to begin with... thanks for the great reminder :o)
Hey Karen, thanks for your comment! I think it's a struggle for a lot of moms - to feel like they deserve care and attention they're so good at giving to their kids. Good luck!
Awesome post, Katie!! LOVED it.
And such a cute picture.
Seems like that episode with Bob and Patty struck a cord with many of us. I wrote about it and I cried too.
Yes, we are worth it!
I usually just lurk but Snackie forced me out of the blog closet this week :)
Love the blog.
thanks amy!
And MB, So glad you de-lurked!
I went and read your post on the worthiness factor, glad I know about you now! :)
I agree, it totally struck a chord.
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